“Cursed be their rage for it is intense, and their anger for its cruel.”
~ Genesis 49:7
On his deathbed, Jacob gathers his sons for final words of encouragement. Some needed rebuke for their mistakes.
Instead of speaking directly, Jacob scolds their anger, why?
Because what parents say either builds or breaks their children, especially when trying to help them improve. The most supportive message is that mistakes – and the emotions which caused them – don’t reflect one’s essence. So Jacob criticises what they felt, not who they are.
How we speak to ourselves should be no different.