“Be in awe of your mother and your father.”
~ Leviticus 19:14
More than a nicety, respecting parents is an essential Jewish value.
But why’s the sequence of parents reversed from the famous verse in the Ten Commandments:
“Honor your father and your mother”
Typically, fathers are domineering and mothers affectionate, so children naturally fear dad and honour mom. To really respect them, we need to put our efforts where we’re naturally weak: revere your affectionate mother and honour your domineering father.
If not, we’re just doing what’s natural, not what’s right.